She has every right to share what happened and voice her own opinions.
What does bother me, however, is how she presents the information. It was also a blind date — which, as anyone will tell you, can be a thorny situation no matter where in the world that date happens.
She titled the post “On Dating Chinese Men.” A title like that suggests that the author is bringing a great deal of experience to her topic — that perhaps she has dated a number of Chinese men, or at least dated one long enough to get a better sense of the dating culture, and she wants to tell others about that overall experience. Now, she does preface this date as her “first Chinese date,” suggesting she probably did have more than one experience.
The latest data, from a 2010 population census, shows more than 600,000 foreigners dwell in China, and 56% of them are male.
But while dating seems to be on the rise, marriage is still unusual—thanks to political differences that are often irreconcilable, according to the women I spoke to, who were all between 21 and 25, prime age to start looking for a husband in China.
Unlike in first-tier cities like Beijing and Shanghai, where new trends emerge and quickly permeate society, Zhou was considered an early adopter in the second-tier city Yantai in Shandong Province when she began online dating in the early 2010s.
When 30-year-old auto sales manager Zhou Yixin joined online dating at the behest of her cousin living in Beijing, she did not expect to meet her steady boyfriend of two years.
Jiayuan and Baihe, China’s most popular dating sites, had around 126 million and 85 million registered users in 2015 respectively (Tinder had about 50 million active users in 2014).
In contrast to a slew of popular dating apps in the West that are commonly associated with a casual “hook-up” dating culture, Chinese online dating services are typically used by those in search of lasting connections and relationships — although this gradually may be changing.Many Chinese women have shrugged off the spy warning—but say relationships between Chinese women and foreign men are anything but smooth.It is certainly much more common for Chinese women to date foreign men than in my parents’ generation, thanks to Chinese nationals heading overseas for schools and foreigners flocking to Beijing, Shanghai, and other big cities to learn Mandarin and add Chinese experience to their resumes.“Honestly, I fell for you the first time I saw you,” the guy confesses, and the two soon begin a relationship.But the romance turns dark when she learns David is, in fact, a foreign agent who ruthlessly uses Li to obtain government documents.Chinese dating is just as confusing, and wonderful, as any other type of dating.