They know that you operate from two basic principles; 1) that your lizard brain is driving you to have sex as much as possible in order to continue the species, and 2) that your lizard brain is still fear driven. In essence, be sexy, have sex, or fear the repercussions in the form of social exclusion. Remember this season on The Bachelorette, where she had sex with one of the contestants on the show?
This “was the most legitimate attempt to find somebody compatible” said one of the hosts of a popular daytime TV talk show, The Social. How did Chemistry become the #1 criterion for figuring out whether or not this guy is going to grow with you, be around for the long haul, and develop good relationship tools if he doesn’t have them already?
In the service of those who want to walk the road to long-term intimacy, we've detailed the steps that will help you navigate those fraught first four weeks.
"We are paying attention, so be honest, truthful and show who you are.Women want a man who is patient, kind, interesting and interested.I hope I’m making your head spin, because it’s about time someone turned this whole thing upside down.It’s so easy to explain why I get such a strong reaction whenever I publicly say, “hey girls, hold off on the kissing for 3 months if a long term relationship is what you’re looking for”. If you want fun-fun then have all the fun-fun you want!One Xmas, my sister got airline tickets from her boyfriend for a trip to Italy.
I was impressed with the gift, but my sister had a lukewarm reaction.
But if long term is your goal and you haven’t been lucky enough to have good intuition, then pay attention) First of all, let’s be clear, the media knows you inside and out.
The companies that are selling the stuff have invested millions of dollars before a commercial is even shot to figure out just how you tick, and boy have they got you figured out. Sex and Fear will sell you anything from toothpaste to diet pills to cars, and get you to do anything like damage your body and go into unnecessary dept. Every day that you turn on the radio or TV, watch a movie, read a magazine, pick up a newspaper, or see a billboard; you are bombarded with FEAR and SEX. ” are the gist of the comments I see on boards I post on, and what they’re really saying is, “you are saying something contrary to the message I see a dozen times a day, reinforced in every direction I look, and I fear what is different! And I get that, change is the scariest thing of all, and I understand that we have been TAUGHT that sexuality is the way to start a relationship.
You want to get to know the person and each have a chance for a fresh start.
Carrying old baggage into a new relationship amounts to clutter.
"Women want a man with a plan who is decisive and follows through.