The only thing to do was to look at others and try to figure out the typical family life. Giving up control could send life into chaos so there is normally an overreaction to maintain it.
It makes it tough to trust your own opinion and develop a strong sense of identity. Many ACOAs have not received much affirmation, so they are in desperate need.
If alcoholism seems like a lot to handle, imagine growing up with addicted parents.
The response to that article has been overwhelming, and is ongoing.
You’ve poured your heart out to me and I have been humbled and honored to hear your stories of pain, reconciliation, triumph.
This article is by no means meant to suggest that any person is any more or less insecure — or in need, or struggling — than me (or any other ACo A).
It is meant to identify some of the unusual emotional challenges that the grown-up kids of addicts face, and hopefully to give those folks who love us some insight.
An intimate relationship -- be it romantic, platonic, spiritual or other close relationship -- can seem like an impossibility to adult children of alcoholics.
They find it difficult to allow themselves to look to others for interdependence, emotional attachment or fulfillment of their needs.A couple of months ago I wrote about being the child of an addict. I shared the things I’d want you to know about what it’s like to be me. This means you might be giving more in the relationship than you are receiving, and I’m sorry. Arguments are pervasive, and violence or even incest may play a role.Children in alcoholic families suffer trauma as acute as soldiers in combat; they also carry the trauma like an albatross throughout their lives.I felt like an eleven year old in a room full of adults. A deeply rooted fear of authority and constant need to please ruled my world. During counseling and research, I came across the phrase Adult Child of an Alcoholic. Left unidentified and unresolved, these unhealthy characteristics will plague our families from one generation to the next. Janet Geringer Woititz identified 13 common characteristics.