I just said, ‘I’m still smiling.’ Thank fully he texted straight back to say ‘me too.’ If a guy likes you, a text isn’t going to put him off – he’ll probably be really relieved to hear from you.” Andy: “Only if the date really did go well, and you know that he liked you too. Also it puts the ball in his court – he feels like he’s got permission to phone you the next day.” Sarah: “No way.If a man called on the way home I’d think he was a bit too keen.
The fact is that no matter how in denial you are, these so-called rules exist.
And members of our generation actually follow and endorse them, although they'll never admit it.
We are by no means “put together.” We have no idea where we are going, what we want or what we are going to do when we get there. I'm not talking about the rules your parents made for you when you were 15 and screaming at your mom to let you sleepover at your boyfriend's house.
You shoot him a text, letting him know you had a fun night. Two days later, you're debating whether to write off that apparently perfect person you met on Saturday night, or to pitifully send another text because, maybe, the message didn't send. We spend our rent money on plane tickets, and we are always searching for something more.
The rules are simple: If you like someone and want to make plans for date #2, then make the contact in a timely fashion. And ladies, if he has the courtesy to ask you out again and you’re not interested, do the kind thing and thank him, using the honest answer that you didn’t feel a spark.
Ignoring it will only make a possible future encounter (remember – it’s a small world) that much more awkward.Twenty-four hours later, those heartstrings are being twanged by demons – because your date hasn’t called you, and you haven’t called them, and you don’t know what to do about it.We asked real daters, with real phones, how they decide when to call. I texted my current boyfriend about half an hour after we said goodbye outside the pub on our first date.In most cases, if he’s interested, the man will contact the woman after the date to ask her out again.But I do encourage the woman to send a “thank you text” the day after the date. Assuming he also had a great time, it’ll put a smile on his face and give him the “nudge” he needs to know that you want to stay in contact with him.Personally, I've never been educated about the rules of relationships.