Or, perhaps a friend has fixed you up with someone she “knows you’ll just love.” Now you’re trying to figure out whether to bring your cane so you’ll feel steadier on your feet or whether you should tough it out and hope for the best in the two-inch heels you’ve been dying to wear.
Or, maybe you want to ask someone out but you’re just not sure whether you have an obligation to talk about your MS.
By Rosalind Kalb, Barbara Giesser, Kathleen Costello Multiple sclerosis (MS) is typically diagnosed in the 20s, 30s, and 40s, when many people are looking for their significant others.
Dating isn’t all that easy under the best of circumstances, so getting diagnosed with a chronic illness obviously adds another challenge.
Consider a few things: Multiple sclerosis symptoms can interfere with different types of dating activities.
For example, if mobility is an issue for you, going to the movies is a better idea than playing miniature golf. Do not be afraid to be upfront with your date about what you would prefer to do, whether he or she knows your health status or not.
Other people acted like if I couldn't do what they could do that I wasn't worth talking to.
I had not really felt like a person for much of the first 2 years after I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, because the doctors and other people around me acted like I was a constant "sick patient" that they were just visiting out of pity more than because they really were concerned about me as a person.
When and if to ever disclose that you have MS is a personal decision, and perhaps the hardest part of dating with the disease. Each person is different, and you need to listen to what your gut is telling you.
While there is no "perfect" time, you may want to consider waiting until you get to the point where you and your date are beyond small talk and are comfortable sharing more personal details about one another.
When talking about multiple sclerosis, the subject of MS and dating may seem like a trivial one to raisebut that is only so to people who have never been single and managing the disease.
Though it is not as major a conversation as, say, treating MS, it's important to acknowledge that multiple sclerosis may give rise to some insecurities, uncertainties or issues when it comes to your dating lifeand your comfort and happiness are too important to overlook.
You may want to keep some alternative ideas at the ready, so you can be prepared with another suggestion if one proposed to you is undesirable.