Didn't know they were dating is a trope that shows up in ship-focused fanfiction.
Often both parties are oblivious to the fact that everyone around them thinks they've been dating for some time.
We would go for coffee outside of class and work, we would call each other to talk about our days. We both spent about four months rolling our eyes at the other’s romantic decisions, but it was so nice having a close friend of the opposite sex. I could just call him up to help me with my weekly shop, and he’d walk around pushing the trolley with me.I could try on clothes in front of him and ask what he thought, without feeling even slightly self-conscious.We talked about it a little, both realizing we were spending so much time together, doing all of the things that people in a relationship do…that it was as though we had fallen into coupledom without even realiszing. There was never a moment where I had to decide if I wanted to risk our friendship or not, because I already had. We admitted the thing we had been hiding for months now — that we liked each other in a “more than friends” kind of way, and it was becoming more. We didn’t tell any of our friends (well, except our other BEST friends), we uploaded nothing suspicious on social media, and we just enjoyed things as they came. This isn’t about changing my sexuality or even evaluating it. Sometimes it’s hard to tell when so few men have distinguished themselves with kindness. But I think that’s too simplistic, and I don’t know that any other generation set such a high standard (antiquated laws without gender equity demonstrate my point here). Maybe it’s that this generation of women (of course, I’m basing this on my own experience and I know that this doesn’t include all women) is less willing to put up with bullsh*t. We’re beginning to reclaim our body confidence and to embrace our authentic selves. Open doors, pay the tab, do all of those traditional things. And I know that almost no one does it anymore, but flowers or candy are still nice gestures. If you don’t know what mansplaining is, please educate yourself and don’t ever do it again. I will say that I don’t find that I have chemistry with just anyone. Making jokes about your height or weight may seem like a good way to ease the tension, but sometimes it just comes across as insecure and needy. Be flattering, show interest without condescension, and if you’re not interested, you can express that kindly. It would have been so much easier to hear that he was interested in someone else than to be treated like I don’t exist and that our time together meant less than nothing to him. Maybe you’re the one who reminds us why we really do like men. I keep looking at our dating culture and our society, and we’re all contributing to that society. In other fics it may be that just one party is oblivious and the other party thinks they have been dating (just not putting out yet).
In angstier versions of the trope, one party may be pining for the other, especially if they're having what one party (or both) thinks or pretends is casual, emotionally detached sex while the other party (or both) is secretly in love.I first met my best friend last year, when he walked into our Creative Writing class late, wearing a waistcoat and a bowler hat, as though he’d just stepped out of the 1920s.He sat down next to me and smiled like he’d just arrived precisely when he meant to — kinda like Gandalf.Right off the top, you mentioned that you and he have agreed to be exclusive.It’s reasonable to interpret that as meaning you’ve agreed to not date anyone or sleep with anyone else, but I want to ask: when you agreed to be exclusive, how did this come about?, Novak playfully clarified the status of his off-camera relationship with Kaling when a caller inquired about it after commenting on how they had such great chemistry on the show."I would say it was a great and terrible chemistry, and it reflected what we were like in real life," the 34-year-old actor said.