My Korean boyfriend was born and raised in South Korea and I was born and raised in Europe. Now we were so close we could have touched each other.As I tried to prepare for the difficult journey ahead – with almost 6,000 miles (around 10 000 km) of distance between our countries and expecting culture clashes, misunderstandings and language barriers – I turned to guidance online by people who had already gone through what still lay ahead for me. After all, I haven’t done much else than stare at his photos for the last few months. Could have, had it not been for a huge glass pane dividing the arrivals from people ready to greet them. Before I knew what had happened I was awkwardly hugging him.Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don’t think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture.
There are many myths and stereotypes when it comes to dating asian guys.Some are completely outlandish and some are, well, a little more spot on. Census Bureau, 40% of Asian females will marry a non-Asian male, whereas 20% of Asian males will marry a non-Asian female. In fact, there’s even a website which acts as a forum for asian men reclaiming their “asianalitiy” – and they are pissed that their potential asian wives are shacking up with non-asians.w=300&h=200" alt="dating Korean guys love South Korean man" width="300" height="200" srcset="https://lovingkorean.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/korean-holding-hands.jpg? But then again in my mind he didn’t have that huge backpack on.w=300&h=200 300w, https://lovingkorean.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/korean-holding-hands.jpg? w=600&h=400 600w, https://lovingkorean.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/korean-holding-hands.jpg? w=150&h=100 150w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /That night everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. After taking 6 hours to get there it turned out the place where I wanted to get the food had been closed for a year, the bus didn’t show up, I spent all the money on a cab fare and, on the day when it was crucial I look my best, I looked exhausted and defeated. And because of this, sometimes, there is some truth to the cultural differences of people raised with diverse upbringings. When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that “reach” for your wallet. When it comes to alcohol consumption, according to research, the ‘Asian Flush’ occurs due to a deficiency in an enzyme called aldehyde dehydrogenase, which is part of a vital process that digests alcohol.
So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.
During university in California, I happened to fall in love with a Korean man.
Not because I “had a thing” for Asians (or maybe a little) but because of who he is.
The good news for Asian males is that as online dating is becoming less and less taboo, there are a lot more asian dating sites ready to help make meeting potential matches easier.
White, black, yellow – really, one’s ethnicity shouldn’t make a difference as we are all part of the human race. However, keep in mind that there are certain cultural differences that come to play that shape a person’s mentality, values, ideas of what a relationship dynamic should look like, and subsequently, their behaviour.
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