While the age of the child plays a factor, if you’re not looking for anything serious, you shouldn’t play the “I’ll figure it out” game with a ready-made family.
Further, if you’re not a kid person or don’t want kids, you should not date a woman with kids to see if you’ll change your mind.
Ultimately, failure to put their partner first was a sign these guys were not ready for a serious relationship, or at least not with those particular women, and that is totally normal.
Women are certainly guilty of putting their kids ahead of their partner — maybe even more so than men, especially since they are nearly always the primary care giver in the event of divorce.But in this moment when men are struggling to claim their place as equal parents while society expects divorced dads to be the lackadaisical weekend father, I get why you are compelled to go overboard with your expressed devotion. If you are indeed ready for a real love, create a space for her.We hit off very well and I feel so great with him but recently he seemed to have distanced himself from me.This weekend my friend asked him what was going on and he told her that he really likes me and doesn't mind being just with me but that the relationship could never develop into anything serious because I have 3 kids. I understand him in a way because he is young, single and has no children of his own.Also he comes from a very opinionated family and I really think that is really what he is concerned about, what his family will think of this.
I have not had a chance to really talk to him but I just want a partner not a baby daddy.
And in these families, the parents put their relationship before the kids.
Another’s girlfriend eventually broke up with him after several years because he rarely made time to spend alone with her, instead expecting constant family time with his son.
We are all free to make up whatever dating preferences we want.
They are called personal preferences for a reason and we don’t need the approval of anyone else when it comes to what we like.
If you’re a woman just starting to date a guy without kids, here are a few pieces of advice to help you navigate the new relationship. Don’t distance yourself but be open to answering questions and giving him a helpful platform to understand what it all means. When you’re further down the line he will WANT to help you and your kids, but let him get there on his own. He has not needed to acquire those skills yet, so he will need to learn.