But that ring on my finger led to plenty of awkward conversations. Sometimes -- plenty of times -- people said the "wrong" thing.
At large social gatherings people asked questions like, "What does your husband do for work? " I dreaded the look on their face when I explained I was a widow. They'd unintentionally offer words that hurt more than they helped.
I'd occasionally meet elderly widows -- my grandmother's friends mostly.Many of them would offer condolences and words of empathy like, "I know just what you're going through." And while I'm sure losing a spouse after 50-plus years of marriage is heart-wrenching, I'd secretly feel envious that they got to grow old together.On a gut level, which of these possibilities feels best for you?If you have been spending a lot of time alone, try and figure out what you truly need.At it is free to join and we aim to make it as easy and straight forward as possible for widows and widowers based in the various cities and states of the US to meet in a safe and relaxed manner, providing the ideal conditions for new relationships to blossom.
We value the life experience of each member, and suggest matches based upon location and shared interests, striving to ensure the highest possibility for genuine companionship.In other words to get clear about your motivation and your values.This is important because it helps you to know what is driving you, what you need, and what is good for you at this particular point in your grief journey and life in general.Are you still grieving and require more time to process your loss, or do you need to challenge yourself to connect with others to help you overcome isolation.You may need to take some time to experience friendships first, before embarking on dating.In a cruel twist of fate, my husband's death coincided with the three-year anniversary of my mother's death. Before most of my friends were married, I was already widowed -- not to mention, partially orphaned.